HH138 🏁 it begins
Hello dear reader!
How are you? Has your brain also started leaking out of your ears from all the New Year's wisdom, predictions, resolutions, and clever remarks on social media? I'm completely done, and I'm glad that the year is finally starting.
I don't mind at all that social media is dying. It will be good without it, although I don't know what will replace it. Will we have to meet in person with smaller groups of people again and deepen relationships, like our ancestors, without having anywhere to share selfies and ussies?
I'm a huge fan of regular relaxation and self-reflection, but I don't like it when it's forced on humanity centrally. This end-of-year period can put tremendous pressure on us, as expectations skyrocket. Christmas is the time to reach the most intimate "blessed" state, to cook the finest food, to bring the greatest joy to our children and to relatives and "friends" who don't care about our needs anyway. Shortly after, New Year's Eve arrives, which, of course, must enter in the history book as the biggest party of the year, with glitter and a wild atmosphere at a minimum!
Meanwhile, summaries come, strictly shared uniformly on Facebook, Instagram, Threads, TikTok, LinkedIn, etc.: I achieved these things this year (new diploma, promotion, awards, etc.), I read this many books (because I'm more cultured than you), I traveled to this many countries (because I'm richer and cooler than you), and I have so many friends who all love me and, by the way, look how damn good-looking I am!
We see this everywhere, and as a result, we tend to put pressure on ourselves and set goals that not only are unrealistic but also do not reflect our desires.
It is essential to understand that the continuous pursuit of grand ambitions for the sake of a glamorous goal does not really bring happiness. What's worse is that those who achieve their insanely big goals are most exposed to collapse and depression - just ask a Hollywood star or a rockstar!
The process is the essence, the everyday routines, the habits you develop for your well-being. Of course, some self-awareness and a lot of courage to go against the crowd wouldn't hurt either.
If you want to make a change this year and need support, my group program starting on January 22 might be interesting for you.
Check out the details and write to me if you have any questions! I'll help you decide if the program is right for you.
If you're not interested in the topic, I ask for your patience. I'll mention it in the next two newsletters.
Podcast
With my colleague and friend Szűcs Izabella - a psychologist by profession and, not incidentally, the co-creator of the group program mentioned above - we had a good debate about how much our self-improvement depends on us. Is it just about wanting something and working hard for it? Or is there something else here?
Listen to this interesting conversation and let me know what you think about the topic!
Stand up
I generally like Ricky Gervais, especially his series "After Life" on Netflix. However, his new Christmas special disappointed me. I didn't get anything new from the apocalypse, and during the show, I started to get a little tired of the world-famous middle-aged multimillionaire lecturing, in which I found nothing funny - even though I mostly agree with him.
Have you seen it? Did you like it? I'll quickly move on to the new Dave Chappelle special; hopefully he'll continue to bring his A-game.
This was the first newsletter of 2024. for HAC, and there are plans for 50 more if all goes well.
I wish you and myself good health, and don't forget, there are still spots available in the January group. It's never too late to start living your life according to your own rules!
Best regards,
András