WW110 🚩 Let's make it clear from the beginning!
Dear reader,
I hope you're doing well. Thank you for reading my email.
Many of my clients try their best to perform well at work and beyond, regardless of the circumstances and how they are treated. It's like a childhood commandment: work hard, take care of everyone to receive love. Although this may have been the key to survival as a child, as an adult it's an outdated program. It's time for an upgrade.
After decades of self-sacrifice, it can be terrifying to assert our needs, as it may turn out that our boss/friend/partner/etc. doesn't support us - they completely ignore what we need.
But, we shouldn't fall into the trap of thinking that if we're kind, people will be kind to us. There's no guarantee, and this slightly naive attitude can even lead to exploitation.
Right from the beginning of a job or any relationship, we need to establish our boundaries and communicate what we need to bring out the best in ourselves.
If there's a negative response, we have no place in that situation and should be happy that we found out early on that our needs aren't being considered.
Don't blame yourself - everything is fine with you. You just haven't found the right colleagues, workplace, boss, etc. Keep searching.
When you feel cared for and listened to, it's worth showing how reliable and helpful you are. It should be a 50-50 deal that neither party regrets!
Do you struggle with setting boundaries? Are you prone to putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own? What are the situations where you find it difficult to say no?
What would help you to start acting differently?
Is other people's opinion so important that you forget who you are?
Kevin Smith was in this situation. In a heavy half-hour summary, he talks about his childhood traumas and his recent psychotic episode, which was supported by 15 years of non-stop weed smoking and a massive burnout.
It's worth watching:
It's pure madness.
Podcast
We went to the cinema and watched Ben Affleck's latest movie, "Air", which explores the background of Nike and Michael Jordan's historic business success. I really enjoyed the film, but it's a huge ode to workaholism. I talk about this and the toxic principles of Nike in detail in this week's episode of HAC (Hungarian).
The English program is still going strong. Every Monday, there's a new episode, and the latest one is about athlete burnout and peak performance.
Listen to it on your favorite platform and tell a friend about the podcasts.
Thank you for your attention today and let's enjoy the three-day long weekend - in countries where it applies!
How will you recharge?
All the best,
András